After a long days work, I look forward to unwinding. I love cooking and find it to be very therapeutic. I recall one evening on my way home, BD #2 called and asked on his way to drop our son off, if I could do his hair for him because he had an interview to go to. I called my husband to make sure it was okay to do so. As expected, he agreed. To my surprise, I get home to start dinner and find BD #1 had come in town to surprise our daughter. No sooner than I step foot in the door, BD #2 was knocking.
Now, what I am about to share is going to be jaw dropping, but not impossible.
My husband was in the living room in his favorite chair, I am sitting on the sofa next to him re-twisting BD #2 hair, while Trinity is being helped with her homework by BD #1 . Dean was in the room playing and wanted some chips and I said "hey, I’m not here, ask your dad". Trinity wanted to go over a friends house after completing her homework and again, "ask your dad, he's right there".
This sort of parent/friend relationship didn’t happen overnight. This kind of maturity comes with time and understanding that it will help decide what is in the best interest of our children. Blended families are never easy mix, but even harder when the children suffer.
Topics like these won't be for every blended family, but it's worth it to give it a shot. What harm can come from it? The worst that could happen is that trying it actually works. My blended family works for me and I will continue to share my stories in hopes that it may work for your children too.
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